The excuses are hollow for both "it is just business" and "it is just love" are just masks by the one who doesn't have the courage to acknowledge their inferiority complex, that they worship foreigners and that it plays a central role in their decision-making.
Those with inferiority complexes naturally seek acceptance from those they perceive as superior.
It scares a lot of Chinese guys, who look for a typical "good woman" by the standards of their parents.
With my Western boyfriend, I didn't have to pretend to be a "cute and naive woman," and I am not afraid of who I am.
But a recent article in Metro Shanghai, titled "Single foreign females in China don't have it easy," struck me as particularly wrong-headed.
Chinese society is getting more open, however, dating a white guy in China is not easy.
Sometimes, I get discriminated against by Chinese men on the street.
That was the beauty of having a relationship with a Westerner.
My education and life experience made me a strong and independent woman.