Technology may have made dating more ambiguous, but it just might end up making it better.A: Your wait time should be indirectly proportional to how well the date went. (The study isn’t explicitly hetero-only, but most questions are framed in those terms.) Among the findings: About a third of single people think “it’s less intimidating” to ask someone out via text message.(No gender difference.) Forty-six percent of singles get annoyed by a dating prospect who texts too frequently. She gives smart, super-honest advice about your biggest dating and relationship conundrums. If you start toying with the three-day rule, start acting completely apathetic… About the author: Claire Austen is a 20-something freelance writer, sports enthusiast, and polka-dot-lovin’ everygirl trying to bridge the gap between what men know about women and what women wish men knew.According to the study, the majority of single men and women are also in agreement that “texting has made dating more ambiguous.” The old courtship model—where the man pursues until the woman fends him off or acquiesces—is dead (and good riddance), but a new romantic script has failed to emerge. Under the gender-essentialist model, the man would text a woman; the woman would field the advance, and the man would keep texting until she either agreed to a date or blocked his number with the phone company.That script pits men and women against the other based on perceived gender differences.
Northeasterners are also more likely to scroll through a significant other’s text messages and call history without permission than Westerners are.
Android users are a little more likely to view the who-texts-first issue as gender-neutral, and they’re also more comfortable with significant others looking through their phones.
The study also unearthed some regional differences in texting behavior: People in the Northeast tap their phones harder than people in the West do.
“Keep it casual, mentioning something you laughed about together or just expressing how much you enjoyed hanging out.” Then, do not wait too long before asking for a second date.
Here’s how to proceed immediately: “The new norm is to text an hour after the date,” says dating and relationship expert Whitney Casey. Maybe she’s wondering if there’s enough of a spark, thinks you could be a bad boy or just dealt with a nasty breakup—whatever the case, you probably still have a shot. When we’re still thinking the situation over, overzealous behavior out.