I can't really put my finger on what it is about him that I'm not attracted to; it's just that he's not the type of guy I ever saw myself with.He's healthy and in good shape and not a bad-looking guy, but I just don't look at him and think, According to all my friends who are in relationships, that's a problem.Because he's over 20 hours away, it's easy for me to ignore the physical factor, but I'm worried that if I allow him to pursue a relationship with me now, when I see him later in the summer my emotional connection will be strong, but I will feel uncomfortable with him physically.Thanks for any advice you can give or past articles you could point me to. The attraction question seems to be coming up a lot lately! I guess my first question back to you would be, "Is this about how he looks or how he acts? " I believe that men tend to be more swayed by whether they like the way a woman looks, while women, generally speaking, base attraction on what a man is like — his personality.And the more I grew to know him, the more attractive he became.I suspect I looked even less like what he'd imagined himself with.I think it's fine to wait and see if he is willing to take the risk to ask you out. And once you start loving a man, truly loving him in the fullness of marriage, they become even less important.
I am very cuddly and comfortable with my girl friends, but with my guy friends, I basically have a no-touch policy.Though it wasn't romantic from the start, our friendship was full of potential.I'll be ever grateful that he took the advice of Dr.Morken, who recognized that potential, and told Steve it was OK to give ourselves time to "let love grow." As for your friends who are quick to dismiss him as a candidate — precisely because you're not thinking of bedding him — I'd be more wary of them than him!Their counsel resembles that of the foolish woman in Proverbs.